I want to tell you some big truths that your parents won’t tell you. Don’t wait until you’re 40 to say: I’ve been living in vain before!
Before marriage:
- In the context of a patriarchal society, the path to marriage for women is suggested:
A. Find a man with good hardware, who can make money, and is righteous.
B. Find an ordinary man who is easy to control and has self-awareness of a plain life.
C. Not getting married, relying on oneself.
A. Find a man with good hardware, who can make money, and is righteous. With such a man, your material life is not hard.
Men don’t care about love, but many capable men are righteous. A man who is righteous to his wife, even if he has a lot of thoughts, the benefits he should give you, he will not give you less.
B. Find an ordinary man who is easy to control and has self-awareness of a plain life.
Although such a man does not have great abilities, you expect him to take care of you, protect you and make decisions for you, which is definitely impossible.
But as long as he hands over his salary, listens to you, does not lag behind, does not make tricks, and strives hard for his family and children wholeheartedly.
That’s not bad either. You know, there are many men in this world who have neither money nor righteousness, and they make tricks outside and drag their wives’ legs.
C. Not getting married, relying on oneself. If you don’t have rich parents, this road will take a lot of hardship, probably twice as much as the ordinary man.
Then what you can do is to demand yourself like a man! Strive for a career! Women are most afraid of finding a man who is nothing, neither capable nor loyal, dragging their legs and cheating, and treating their wives badly, while women can’t escape this fate because of their children, and their material life is hard, and their feelings are very lonely.
- You don’t have to get married, but if you can, it is recommended that you have a child, especially for women over 30, having children is for yourself.
- “A door that cannot be knocked open, knocking too much is impolite”, not being loved dare to leave, dare to rest. In this era of mobile phones, no one is so busy that they have no time to reply to your messages 24 hours a day, they just don’t want to reply to you.
- Those who are favored are confident and fearless. If you are neglected in a relationship, it usually means: in a man’s eyes, this feeling is not worth his investment. He is confident that even if his investment is not enough, you will not leave him. In case, just in case, the worst result, even if you want to leave him, he can accept it.
- Don’t want that kind of man who is not motivated and likes to suppress you, and can’t see your salary higher than him! You should find a nourishing man.
These men, regardless of whether they are stronger than their other half, they are proud, open-minded, they will be proud of their partner’s excellence, happy because of their partner’s happiness, they have enough energy to appreciate a woman, they will let Their partners live more vigorously, live more vibrant, and the wealth and happiness at home are more and more.
On the contrary, they try to lower their partner’s self-esteem and personality, make her feel that she is good for nothing, make her dull like a pool of stagnant water, make her narrowly feel that the world is a well, because only in this way can match their inner self. - Don’t be too entangled with the thing of the predecessor, that’s just a man’s past, and you are his future, responsible for pioneering with you.
Many people may not believe it when they say it, many girls’ jealousy of their predecessors can even become a kind of addiction. At first, it may be out of curiosity to learn about the partner’s predecessor, and once more and more clues are mastered, more associations will be produced, and even facts that make us sad and anxious are discovered.
In order to eliminate this anxiety, many women will want to master more details.
In this way, we fall into a vicious circle, put many inner struggles that we may not understand ourselves, and pin our hopes on the attention to the predecessor, and finally “addicted” to the partner’s predecessor.
Facing this situation, you must understand one thing: imagination is your biggest enemy. Whether it’s the predecessor you heard from your partner’s mouth, or the details you collected from the Internet, it cannot restore a real and complete ta, and what makes you uneasy and jealous is not the real ta, but your imagination.
Don’t try to change the established facts, that will only make you feel powerless. What you need to change is your own perception of “the partner has had other lovers”. Is it a bad thing? Or is it a common reality? Is the impact it brings to you as the current lover of the partner necessarily bad?
Maybe, you should thank ta for teaching your partner how to love? A lot of times we feel dissatisfied with our relationship, because we have too single cognition and unrealistic expectations of love.
What we should learn to do is to live with the uncertainty, disappointment, conflict, and power struggle that are inevitably included in the relationship, face it, and not put our negative emotions on the jealousy of the predecessor because it is difficult to deal with it positively. - Self is so huge, love is definitely not the life-saving straw of your trough life. 8. Don’t spend money on men! Don’t spend money on men! Don’t spend money on men! You need to know that society is brainwashing men, men have to use money/ability/good for women to exchange a woman’s love, and also brainwashing men.
Men feel that women who don’t want money and post upside down are not worth cherishing. In men’s cognition, the more he pays, the higher the cost, the more he cherishes, just like the brand name bought at a high price, people will cherish it more. - Feelings are indeed not for testing. But if you test it out as a defective product, it is correct to break up. Many girls are stupid in that: she wants to know whether the boy is reliable, but after she knows it, she dare not bear the consequences of this test, and dare not decisively break up. This is the really stupid place.
- There is no such thing as a perfect boy, unless you are very perfect, otherwise, he will often expose some problems later, which is tried and tested.
