Marital Enlightenment: Discoveries Made After Saying ‘I Do

After marriage:

1. Love can coexist, but it cannot be parasitic. Marriage is a beautiful beginning, and girls should never give up the ability to make money. Two people who cannot progress together cannot go to the end. What can make the relationship last is not the other party’s promise, but your capital to maintain personal independence and spiritual independence at all times;
   Even if you have children, still let yourself be that 18-year-old woman full of charm every year.
2. Understand the biggest communication principle between husband and wife: be soft in words, firm in actions. For example, when the husband comes home late, many women will verbally accuse and curse but be soft in actions, forgive and compromise, and cook a good meal and wait for him to come home. He will think this matter is not serious because of your compromise in action. On the contrary, scolding him will arouse his instinctive resistance, and in the end, you will not get any good from what you do.
   How do high-ranking women do it? The mood is very stable, gently but firmly tell him, I cannot accept your behavior, after he clearly understands your bottom line, he will naturally move in the direction you want.
3. The key to a good marital relationship is to respect each other and focus on expressing your feelings rather than accusations when there are differences. For example, if your husband forgets Valentine’s Day, don’t accuse him and say: How can you forget it, you don’t love me anymore, my friends have received gifts early. Instead, say: You forgot Valentine’s Day, I’m quite upset. Accusations will stimulate the other person’s instinctive resistance and self-defense, while saying that you are upset will truly cause him to reflect and want to make up for you.
4. The universal key to maintaining a couple’s relationship: empathy. Learn a universal empathy golden sentence: I know you how and how, if I were you, I would do the same. For example, if the husband has a hard time at work and brings pressure home, don’t say don’t have pressure. Instead, say: I know you have pressure at work, if I were you, I would also have pressure, this kind of empathy is the most able to open people’s inner defenses, make him feel that you are on the same side with him, understand him, he will tell you the deepest words in his heart, and immediately narrow the communication distance between you.
5. The key to making the relationship happy is to have the ability to love yourself. Marriage is not the tomb of love, only those who love themselves enough will feel happy. Because when there is a void in your heart and you need the love of others to fill it, then happiness and joy are led by others. High-ranking girls will always be clear-headed, loving yourself is not about buying, but about accepting yourself, cultivating self-confidence, constantly accumulating strength, and keeping the initiative of marriage in your own hands.
6. Give each other more praise and support in daily life. Especially when he proactively cleans and does housework, your casual sentence [how clean], is a great encouragement to him, just like now, you double-click the screen to give me a like, it is a good deed in daily life.
7. If you have the ability, you must live separately from your parents-in-law. Living apart is not about proclaiming sovereignty or being unfilial, but for better communication and interaction. The lifestyle and thinking of the two generations are different. If you live together every day, the difficulty of managing your marriage will be raised by several levels. If you don’t have time to talk about this before marriage, you can find a suitable opportunity after marriage.
8. Children are not emergency packages for feelings, they only create problems, not solve problems. If life is unbearable, you should choose to divorce, not to have children. The behavior of feeling unhappy in marriage, so have a child, is irresponsible to your own life, and is extremely contemptuous of the child’s life.
9. The new marriage law stipulates: agreement divorce, requires a 30-day cooling-off period. In order to prevent hasty divorce and impulsive divorce, if both parties voluntarily divorce, it only adds a procedure and does not interfere with the freedom of divorce.

1. Reunion and remarriage are only changes in relationships, not solutions to problems. If in a relationship, you are very tired before getting married, believe me, don’t get married. Don’t expect marriage to change a person. Home is a harbor, a place where people will unconsciously speed up their steps when they are about to get home, a place where people will completely relax and unload all disguises when they return home, a place where all smiles come from the heart, instead of putting on a shackle, Let you be more tired. Isn’t it?