As a matchmaker, I’ve guided many couples and witnessed numerous challenges they face. Given the discussion about pre- and post-marriage, let’s also touch on the period of being “in marriage”, which refers to the time from engagement to the end of the wedding ceremony. Hopefully, this can help those in love and about to get married to avoid some common pitfalls.
Getting married isn’t just about the union of two people, but rather the merging of two families, sometimes even two extended families. This period can bring about various unexpected issues, so it’s crucial for both parties to be prepared for compromise.
- Honor each other’s cultural traditions and agree to disagree. Every culture has its quirks. When it comes to your partner’s family customs, as long as they don’t cross your boundaries, try your best to understand and tolerate them. Carry out these customs with a positive attitude and avoid showing displeasure.
- Be mindful of both sides’ relatives! Don’t offend them and try not to flaunt your happiness or advantages, especially considering the diverse economic and social backgrounds of different families. Relatives generally want you to do well, but not better than them. So, be cautious not to incite jealousy, as this can lead to unnecessary complications.
- Keep things simple and don’t be swayed by external influences or rigid rules. Over the years, I’ve seen many situations where the so-called “rules” have caused unnecessary trouble and even harm. Remember, as a couple, you are a team. Don’t worry about disappointing friends or relatives. True friends would want your wedding to be as stress-free and cost-effective as possible.
- Parents from both sides should communicate effectively and make sure to confirm every decision. It’s useful to document these discussions to avoid any miscommunication or changes of heart later. This approach not only shows respect but also prevents any potential disputes.
- The couple must stand firm and support each other through all challenges. You’re preparing to get married because you truly love each other. When facing difficulties, work together to find solutions instead of letting one person bear all the pressure. Remember, the final stretch is often the most demanding, so don’t slack off!
Above all, never forget that after marriage, you two become each other’s closest confidants!